Thanks for writing this, Jennifer. It seems to me that the subtle devaluation of fatherhood, as a thing, is at least a collateral result of the devaluation of masculinity generally, no? And, just like the devaluation of (genuine) masculinity, has ended up hurting everyone - especially girls.
(Btw, does that "people without prostates" thing also apply to biological XY's who've had them removed? ;-))
You can ‘opt out’ of Mothers’s Day? I had no idea! What kind of jackass opts out of Mothers’s Day? Back in the day, if you insulted someone’s Mother, by calling her a ‘birthing person’, you could get your ass kicked. That’s the proper response to all this woke nonsense……..
Your husband sounds like a great person. I’ll say this. Back when my sons were young it was sooo much easier to go to work for 8 hours than it was to stay at home and care for them all day!! Being a stay at home dad is no joke. Its a lot of hard, rewarding work that should be applauded, not denigrated as per your troll loser.
I have 3 sons. Hope they don’t opt out of Fathers Day! That would be quite a blow. They were raised better than that- if I do say so myself!
Meanwhile, a pattern I discovered in my research on the lives of trans widows, women who divorced suddenly demanding, crossdressing husbands, is that over 1/3 (21 of 60) of us were assaulted by husband before she got out. This is only physical assaults. Sexual assaults, including rape by the husband taking a female persona were 24 of 60. The issue of menacing, threatening and physical harassment is a new pattern I am seeking data on. These men punch the wall next to his wife, throw things to just miss and loom over her threateningly. In zero cases have these men been successfully prosecuted for these crimes. Law enforcement avoids protecting women from this male violence because the woke non-profits will step in and bring in their protesters. Soon a documentary profiling 18 of us, Behind the Looking Glass (Vaishnavi Sundar, Lime Soda Films YT) will be released. Trailers there now. For the rest of the data on 60 trans widows:
Hi Jennifer ! I’m a little late to this post but anyway. 11 years ago (to cut the story super short) I went through back to back ectopic pregnancies (resulting in emergency surgeries and removal of one fallopian tube), the death of my dad from mesothelioma on the other side of the world, and then the stillbirth of our daughter. I didn’t think I would ever get out of it. But I did because my mum wouldn’t let me wallow. She let herself grieve but then was determined to find a new life for herself which is what my dad wanted (and she has!!). I will never forget my dad or my daughter AND they stay with me all the time as a reminder to be grateful strong and to live. We now have a beautiful daughter who is more than I could ever have hoped and prayed for. But as hard as it was to move forward I did not expect others to change their behaviors to accommodate my feelings. I believe people need time to grieve before moving on but I think the key is moving forward. If someone suddenly mentions stillbirth I won’t shy away or feel offended. I was fortunate - I had family and wonderful friends to help me during that time. I miss my dad terribly but that doesn’t mean others can’t celebrate theirs.
Happy Father's Day to Daniel! Totally agree on the sensitivity thing. My relationship with my father is quite strained, but the idea of somehow being triggered by a Fathers' Day advertisement is just weird. Grow a pair, people!
Oh, and on the stay-at-home-dad thing....my wife was a stay-at-home mom for about 10 years when my kids were little, and she also got similar comments unfortunately. Everyone seemed to assume that there was something wrong with her that she couldn't hold down a job, which was absolutely NOT the case. She and I both just didn't want to farm out raising our kids to a third party. Even if we wanted to do that, given the cost of daycare relative to her teaching salary the "return on hassle" was just not there for us. But the comments and just weird looks were enough for me to not talk about it at work, just didn't want to deal with it. And besides, it was really none of their business anyway.
The other comments we would get would basically be passive-aggressive comments about how "it must be nice to sit around all day and not have to work." As I'm sure that you and Daniel already know, being home with young children is NOT AT ALL "sitting around all day" LOLOL. There's just so much work there, I actually am not sure how people with two full-time parents do it. I get that some don't have a choice, and others prefer that, but man - doing all of that with two full-time demanding jobs has got to be tough.
Careful, if everyone grows a pair we’ll have a surplus of testicle havers. 😉
"Testicles"? Oh! You mean those little "death nuggets" that radical feminists suggest prostate havers remove to lengthen their lifespan! https://collapselife.substack.com/p/notes-from-the-edge-of-civilization-792?utm_source=activity_item
Thanks for writing this, Jennifer. It seems to me that the subtle devaluation of fatherhood, as a thing, is at least a collateral result of the devaluation of masculinity generally, no? And, just like the devaluation of (genuine) masculinity, has ended up hurting everyone - especially girls.
(Btw, does that "people without prostates" thing also apply to biological XY's who've had them removed? ;-))
Good for him. I couldn’t be a stay at home dad.
You can ‘opt out’ of Mothers’s Day? I had no idea! What kind of jackass opts out of Mothers’s Day? Back in the day, if you insulted someone’s Mother, by calling her a ‘birthing person’, you could get your ass kicked. That’s the proper response to all this woke nonsense……..
Your husband sounds like a great person. I’ll say this. Back when my sons were young it was sooo much easier to go to work for 8 hours than it was to stay at home and care for them all day!! Being a stay at home dad is no joke. Its a lot of hard, rewarding work that should be applauded, not denigrated as per your troll loser.
I have 3 sons. Hope they don’t opt out of Fathers Day! That would be quite a blow. They were raised better than that- if I do say so myself!
Happy Fathers Day, Daniel!
Meanwhile, a pattern I discovered in my research on the lives of trans widows, women who divorced suddenly demanding, crossdressing husbands, is that over 1/3 (21 of 60) of us were assaulted by husband before she got out. This is only physical assaults. Sexual assaults, including rape by the husband taking a female persona were 24 of 60. The issue of menacing, threatening and physical harassment is a new pattern I am seeking data on. These men punch the wall next to his wife, throw things to just miss and loom over her threateningly. In zero cases have these men been successfully prosecuted for these crimes. Law enforcement avoids protecting women from this male violence because the woke non-profits will step in and bring in their protesters. Soon a documentary profiling 18 of us, Behind the Looking Glass (Vaishnavi Sundar, Lime Soda Films YT) will be released. Trailers there now. For the rest of the data on 60 trans widows:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=owyUun77TKo&t=48s
Hi Jennifer ! I’m a little late to this post but anyway. 11 years ago (to cut the story super short) I went through back to back ectopic pregnancies (resulting in emergency surgeries and removal of one fallopian tube), the death of my dad from mesothelioma on the other side of the world, and then the stillbirth of our daughter. I didn’t think I would ever get out of it. But I did because my mum wouldn’t let me wallow. She let herself grieve but then was determined to find a new life for herself which is what my dad wanted (and she has!!). I will never forget my dad or my daughter AND they stay with me all the time as a reminder to be grateful strong and to live. We now have a beautiful daughter who is more than I could ever have hoped and prayed for. But as hard as it was to move forward I did not expect others to change their behaviors to accommodate my feelings. I believe people need time to grieve before moving on but I think the key is moving forward. If someone suddenly mentions stillbirth I won’t shy away or feel offended. I was fortunate - I had family and wonderful friends to help me during that time. I miss my dad terribly but that doesn’t mean others can’t celebrate theirs.
Happy Father's Day to Daniel! Totally agree on the sensitivity thing. My relationship with my father is quite strained, but the idea of somehow being triggered by a Fathers' Day advertisement is just weird. Grow a pair, people!
Oh, and on the stay-at-home-dad thing....my wife was a stay-at-home mom for about 10 years when my kids were little, and she also got similar comments unfortunately. Everyone seemed to assume that there was something wrong with her that she couldn't hold down a job, which was absolutely NOT the case. She and I both just didn't want to farm out raising our kids to a third party. Even if we wanted to do that, given the cost of daycare relative to her teaching salary the "return on hassle" was just not there for us. But the comments and just weird looks were enough for me to not talk about it at work, just didn't want to deal with it. And besides, it was really none of their business anyway.
The other comments we would get would basically be passive-aggressive comments about how "it must be nice to sit around all day and not have to work." As I'm sure that you and Daniel already know, being home with young children is NOT AT ALL "sitting around all day" LOLOL. There's just so much work there, I actually am not sure how people with two full-time parents do it. I get that some don't have a choice, and others prefer that, but man - doing all of that with two full-time demanding jobs has got to be tough.